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FIXING FACEBOOK – The GOOD Life

Sam —  July 8, 2011 — 2 Comments

(Click play on the video above and listen in the background as you read this post.)

Life really is good.

We are all incredibly blessed.

Now if we all would just recognize that we are blessed, look past our disagreements with one another, and mobilize to do something great.

Facebook is not a relationship builder or breaker. It’s just a tool. What gives Facebook life is how we use it and who we allow to speak into our lives by making them “friends”.

What I really want to see happen on Facebook is for myself and my friends to use it as a vehicle to make the world a better place.

I believe that we all have causes that we are passionate about and at the same time we are all creative enough to take some initiative to get something started. Facebook is an incredible resource for launching an idea…a movement. I know that there are some that are using it to create positive change, but not enough. Understand me, I do not think that Facebook needs more individuals to share cool quotes or their favorite scripture verses. I would love to see more people talking about what they are actually doing and how they are having an impact on the world! Less talk, more action. A lot more action.

Friends that are pastors and church leaders - I would like to see less inviting friends to join you at church and more talk of you inviting people to be the church. It would be so exciting to hear the stories of what people are doing rather than the great service they supposedly attended. I mean, if it really was a great message then how come I haven’t read any posts about them putting it into practice? Less talk about the amazing meetings and more talk of the fruit that is coming from a past meeting. I am not saying that  this isn’t happening, I am just saying it would be great to hear it celebrated more often.

 

One guy that I see doing this is Shaun King. You may have never heard of him, but the man absolutely inspires me. Shaun King is a guy who is passionate about life and is leveraging social media to get others involved with what he is doing. It’s incredible. He is the person behind TwitChange, the first ever celebrity tweet auction that raises money for those in need. He has raised money to get tents to people in Haiti, used twitter to get head trauma doctors to help a little girl that was about to die without proper medical help, and he is constantly using social networking to challenge the church to be the church. His latest endeavor is TellTheMountaintoMove.Org, he wants to climb 7 of the tallest mountains in the world to raise awareness for 7 important causes.  Check the guy out and I promise you will be inspired too.

The take away is this…DO SOMETHING!

You can personally make life a little better for someone else.

Write an encouraging message to someone you love.

Get healthy and encourage friends to join you.

Share a funny story and put a smile on someone’s face.

Create that non-profit that you have always dreamed of starting.

Shake the hand of a person that has served in our military and thank them.

Buy your wife some flowers.

Find someone that is doing something you are passionate about and get involved.

If you see a need, respond.

I don’t want Facebook to become all rainbows and unicorns.  Facebook should be funny, real, and all about you. I would just like to see it get a little bit better.  It’s amazing technology with untapped potential. Think of your Facebook friends as a mobile army and they are waiting for you to ask them to respond. The best thing about social media is we are the ones that get to decide if it’s good or bad.

Mother Teresa once said, “Not all of us can do great things, but we can do small things with great love.”

Go do something great. Not because I think you should…because you want to anyway.

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FIXING FACEBOOK – Don’t Be a Debbie Downer

Sam —  July 6, 2011 — 7 Comments

 

“Ugh…my life sucks and nobody cares.” 

“I hate people that tell me they will be here at 8 pm to hang out with me and then don’t show up.”

“Sounds like everyone had a great day. My day was the worst day ever!”

“My family is PURE EVIL!”

“Insert any political comment that assumes everyone thinks like you and those that don’t are stupid.” 

We have all been a Debbie Downer before.  We have all written something that we shouldn’t have from time to time.

Maybe it’s unintentional.

Maybe it’s a cry for help.

Maybe we are just miserable and have set a goal to make sure we at least make one more person miserable each day through the use of Facebook so we don’t feel alone.

I don’t know about you, but when my social network timeline looks more like the National Enquirer and TMZ had a baby, I tend to stay away for awhile.

You can use Facebook however you want, but here are a few thoughts on how not to be a Debbie Downer.

1. If you see a status update of a friend who is sharing about an enjoyable experience they had, don’t be the person that writes, “How come I wasn’t invited?”.  I think your comment is the answer to why you didn’t get invited. They wanted to have fun! In reality, it probably wasn’t malicious and they didn’t make the decision to exclude you. They just had a fun time with some other friends. Be happy for them! Then, once you turn you are off Facebook, you can be jealous and bitter about it.

2. Please don’t write the status update that directly or indirectly slams another person. If the comment is directed at one person, then call or direct message that person.  Putting it on Facebook is like putting up a live video feed of an intersection that you know is about to have a huge wreck for all of us to watch.  I shouldn’t be looking, but I can’t take my eyes away.  The indirect ones seem to be what I struggle the most with.  They always give me a complex and make me think it’s about me.  Not because I think everything is about me, it’s just that I know I make mistakes all of the time and it could easily be about me.  The worst part of that is  finding out who you may be writing about, if it isn’t me, is really none of my business in the first place.  Stay away from status updates that turn your friends into detectives that have to uncover the clues to a mystery they have no business solving!

3. Try not to ever hijack someone’s status update to share something that’s better.

“I just found out I got a $5 raise at work” 

Comment – “I just got a $25,000 raise at work and won $3.1 Million by playing the lottery. Congrats!”

“So proud of our daughter. She just sang at her first talent show.”

Comment – “Awww…how cute. Our daughter was recognized as gifted vocally at the age of 2 and is her CD is now the fastest selling ever on iTunes.”

These comments are a little over the top, but you know what I mean.  I know that you are excited about all of the great things that are happening in your life and you should be! Just be careful not to make a comment on someone’s status update that makes you the star of the show. If your friend is excited to be going to England for vacation, they might not want to hear that you lived there for 3 years and hated it. The key here would be to remember it’s not your status update…it’s theirs!

4. Do your best to not write status updates that make us fear for your life.  If you really are that lonely and depressed maybe the best thing for you would be to get off the computer and get around some people that love you.  Remember Facebook relationships are not totally real relationships.  It’s like Tron, but different.  When I read something depressing that someone I care about wrote online, I tend to try to respond to them offline.  I know what you are writing may be true, but it doesn’t mean that’s the write place to put it.  I think you need a different outlet might be healthier for you and for your friends on the Book of Faces.

5. Be weary of the political comments. It’s ok to talk politics.  I would just say that if you are going to say something that could be politically polarizing you should expect people to disagree with you.  The key would be to allow for disagreements and to have an open dialogue.  You should treat it like a conversation and not a cage fight.  Once you start to attack someone else’s point of view or treat someone like they are stupid for not thinking like you do, you have officially become a Debbie Downer.

Those are 5 thoughts on how to not become a Debbie Downer. They are in no particular order of importance and I am sure that there are plenty of things I missed.  Please understand, these are all things that I have done in the past. I am not pointing fingers at ANYBODY!!  If you are reading this and think that I am writing about you, it’s not true. See this as a fun blog post with a little bit of truth sprinkled in for us all to think about.

Give me your thoughts on being a Debbie Downer. 

Am I wrong? Right? Did I miss a big one? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I THINK I BROKE MY FACEBOOK

Sam —  July 5, 2011 — 5 Comments

I love social media.

I remember the first time someone told me about Myspace, I could hardly wait to get home and see what it was all about. I used to spend hours on it, trying to reconnect with old friends, sprucing up my profile and finding the perfect song for people to listen to when they landed on my page. When I made the jump to Facebook I started a similar process all over again…and then again with Twitter. It was fun getting reacquainted with people and getting updated on what’s happening in their lives. When a friend would write something, I was always quick to try to respond. It  seemed to me like every status update I read was an opportunity to start a conversation and I loved it.

Then things began to change for me…

I remember adding friends that I barely even knew.

The kid that I had a class with in 4th grade.

The friend of a friend that I met at a pool party. We didn’t really know each other, but the book of faces told us we should be friends and now we are.

On Twitter it was much worse. I quickly began following people and people began following me right back.

Lots of people.

People I do not know….at all.

The crazy part? I thought it was really cool.

Then one day the conversations died.

Status updates stacked upon status updates. Reading through my Facebook timeline became tiresome and on Twitter I had to create groups just to keep up with what was happening. Now when I type a status update I don’t expect to even get a response and I rarely comment on what my friends write. Social media became nothing more than a time waster for me.

I am not ok with that. Are you?

I believe the best part of social media is the SOCIAL part.

I want to get back to that.

I want to be engaged in conversations with those I care about and care about me.

I want to see people leverage social media for something good. Really good. I know there are people that already are and that excites me!

Over the next couple of days I am going to share some of my ideas about how to use social media well.

Please take a moment to share with me some of your thoughts or frustrations with social media?

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